Buying Your First Chastity Device
Don't stress out about it too much
Please note that this post is written for audiences for whom a $30 purchase isn’t going to mean not making next month’s rent. Also, I have little practical understanding regarding the challenges of chastity for the uncircumcised.
I frequently see this quite curious post title on r/chastitytraining: “What’s a good beginner chastity cage to get.” What I find interesting is the poster, likely in part due to the name of the subreddit itself, has this idea that there are “beginner” and “advanced” cages. My usual quip is the difference between a beginner and an advanced cage is the advanced one fits.
But, there is something to the idea of a “beginner” cage. And that is that the cage itself doesn’t matter too much. Why? Because you don’t know what you want and you don’t know how to measure. Its only purpose is to give you something to react to. Assuming you’re not a 19 year old college student scrounging the couch cushions for pizza money (dating myself here, aren’t I?), it’s not something you’re going to be keeping for long. My first $60 in cages lasted not quite six weeks. And I’m sorry, I think few people end up in their Goldilocks cage for under $200 total spend.
The primary goals of that first cage are two-fold:
Give you feedback on your measurements.
Help you decide if this is something you actually want to invest some money in.
A third goal would be to help you decide what design you actually like seeing on your penis. But in general, design and comfort are completely independent.
So, here’s what you do.. do your best to measure your flaccid girth and length and then go out on Amazon or eBay or AliEx and search for chastity cage. Do not go to Lock The Cock, Cobra Chastity, or any other site that like that1. Don’t. Just don’t. Anyway, you’re going to get a lot of stuff that looks like this.
Eliminate anything without at least four rings. Don’t even look at them. Eliminate anything that costs over $35 - spending more on one of these sites isn’t going to get you a better cage, it will only get you an expensive crappy cage. Eliminate anything that looks especially weird. You don’t want weird yet so if it looks like a vulva, I’m sorry but let’s wait on the vulva cages. Just look at things that kind of look like the other things. Although I’ll never understand why they are all either pink or black. Looks like an opportunity for someone to sweep in and dominate the blue chastity cage market.
So, let’s whittle down the list a little more – time to get out a measuring tape (not a tape measure) or a piece of string. Measure your flaccid girth (and by the way, we generally use millimeters and diameters). Find cages that are at least as large as your flaccid girth. It can be larger but you don’t really want it significantly larger (if you’re larger than 38 mm, you’re not going to have much luck – more on that later). Look at the cages that have four or more rings in the 38 to 54 mm range. I’ve recently noticed a trend to include larger and larger rings. Unless your penis looks like an eggplant, you likely don’t need a 60 mm ring. It’s a whole other article as to why people seem to be moving to larger and larger rings. What about ring shape? It really doesn’t matter at this point, if ever.
Now measure your length held parallel to the ground2 and find cages 10 - 20 mm shorter (yes, shorter – trust me) than that measurement.
This is not a sizing guide.. for such a guide I enjoy McQueen’s writeup. But there are plenty of other takes especially with regards to ring sizing.
So, you have a few cages that look like good candidates. Which one to get? Again, it really doesn’t matter too much. This cage probably won’t fit and even if it does, you’re going to want something nicer real soon. Again, this cage is just to give you feedback on your measurements and if this is really your thing. So, just pick one and don’t stress too much.
An important note: Do not get anything with a catheter. UTIs are very dangerous and can be lethal as you can see from this Reddit comment (and some of the other comments in that post). If urethra play is important to you, please do thorough research and if you can find a safer alternative to a catheter that provides anything close to a similar experience without the risk, please consider it.
Help, I’m too girthy!
Yeah, welcome to my world. There has been an increase in availability of girthier cages from when I first started chastity where they topped out at 35 mm but if you can’t find anything large enough, you have two options.
Option 1 is to get a very short cage, something only your glans (head) will go in. Don’t worry, most penises are really compressible length-wise. If you want to make sure you can compress that much, push your glans into your shaft where your skin kind of flows over it. It should be comfortable and if it isn’t, well, let’s look at option 2.
Option 2 is a little more expensive. Now, if you’re just a few millimeters too large, you can probably still squeeze into a cage, perhaps with some lube, but if you’re 4 or more, yeah, sorry, you’re stuck with the short cage or… and I’m very sorry to do this but wait for another post. I realized writing out option 2 will be writing out an entire sizing guide, something I just don’t have the energy for at the moment. If you can’t wait for some future post I may never actually write, check the sizing information here, buy some sizing rings and head over to Cherry Keeper and use her cage finder. Another perfectly good option is Kink3D. I prefer Cherry Keeper because she’s less expensive but Kink3D is definitely worth the cost.
But I also have option 3.
Option 3
Option 3 isn’t for everyone. It’s for people who can spend $350 on more or less a whim (i.e., they don’t need to ask their wife’s permission first). And it’s for people in the US or at least in North America. Sorry, Europe, Asia, and Australia, I’ve got nothing for you – unless you’re okay with shipping your cage back to the US for any adjustments. Ready? Drum Roll…
Mature Metal.
(FYI: this is also a perfectly good option for people who just want a cage that fits and doesn’t want to mess with going through three or four cages to get it figured out – although hopefully if you’ve been reading my stuff, it’s only two or three).
So, why Mature Metal. Because they provide a consultative experience. You buy their sizing rings, you ask questions, and you follow their advice and you’ll likely get a cage that fits the first time3. And if it doesn’t fit, since its steel and not 3D printed, it can be adjusted. The measurement impossible to know ahead of time (the ball gap) costs $40 to change and if you have a vice, you can likely adjust it yourself.. The most expensive change, length, is $125 (I believe). The only thing that can’t be changed is the cage’s diameter.
But Option 3 only works if you ask questions. Anything you’re not sure of, ASK!!! You’re buying an almost $400 cage. It’s up to you to get your money’s worth.
And just a warning so you aren’t surprised, you will most likely be dealing with Mistress Mature Metal. Don’t worry, she knows penises better than you do – after 20 years, she’s seen it all.
Conclusion
Something about the way I formatted this article made me feel compelled to have a conclusion heading. Sorry, autism or something.
So, I therefore conclude that you basically have three options. Option 1 should work for 80% of the penis owners out there. Option 3 works for everyone with a decent amount of disposable income. Option 2 will take me too long to write right now so I’ll put it in a future article.
Well, I feel a sense of closure. I hope you do too.
But wait, there’s more!
Sorry, I was sipping on a very nice Scotch while writing this.
Once you have your cage and you realize it doesn’t fit, what do you do. If you went with option 3, it’s easy: call (432) 352-5554 and let Mistress Mature Metal know. If you went with option 1 or mystery option 2, hopefully it’s obvious what the fit issue is but if it has anything to do with the ring, for the love of god, please read through my articles under comfort and fit, especially these (actually read the first one and last one regardless).
So, where do you go from here? That entirely depends on your preference. Maybe you want steel. Maybe you want a cage that looks like a vulva or a bunny rabbit (no judgement). Maybe you want a custom titanium cage. Maybe you decide to be like me and own all the custom cages and start designing your own. Whatever it is, a critical part to enjoying chastity is being comfortable.
Enjoy and of course, be careful what you wish for.
Almost all sites are reselling mass-produced Chinese cages that can be had on AliEx for far less. The only exceptions are businesses selling their own designs direct to the consumer. A fairly thorough list of those can be found here.
This is actually really frustrating but how you measure length is really kind of cage specific as they measure the length of the cages in different ways.
I’m not going to go into details but there’s a measurement some people are very sensitive to - the ball gap. You can’t actually measure it though so you just take a chance and if you’re sensitive to it, you send the cage back in and they adjust it. Sorry. It sucks.