What does comfortable mean in chastity?
An idea that is unfortunately pervasive in chastity is that it’s something you need training for. What a curious word to use. For a GenXer like myself, training evokes images of Sylvester Stallone as Rocky running up the stairs at the Philadelphia Museum of Art.
The only training I’ve found necessary in chastity is training my wallet to shell out money until I find the right cage.
And I actually find this notion of “training” for chastity dangerous as it gives new users the idea that any discomfort or even pain they are suffering due to their cage can be alleviated by continuing their “training” and that their body will somehow adjust to it,
I could be wrong here. There’s a possibility that some aspects of cage comfort are just a result of the body become acclimated to being caged. But I suspect at least 95% of comfort issues are solely due to the cage not fitting properly.
So, back to my question. What does comfortable mean in chastity? It means the exact same thing it means in tennis shoes, specifically an old pair of broken in tennis shoes.
I see so many new users who just don’t get this. They think using coconut oil on their balls to stop their scrotums from burning is expected and they pass on this advice. They think chafing is normal and somehow acceptable. They think erections are supposed to be painful and that somehow they’ll lessen over time as they continue their training.
If people keep seeing ideas like these repeated over and over again, they never even realize the simple truth: their cage just doesn’t fit.
If it sounds like I may have a bit of a chip on my shoulder, I kind of do. My first month in chastity was spent night after night trying to get through the night in that damn Amazon cage. Every night, I would wake up with my scrotum on fire. Sometimes, I’d be able to stand up and wait out the erection and go back to sleep (until it happened a few hours later). Other times, I’d have to wake Jenn up to let me out of the cage (she was amazing, by the way).
Everyone on Reddit was telling me straps or coconut oil or urinate right before bedtime or drink extra water right before bedtime. They told me it would stop in a few weeks and it was just part of chastity training. In reality, my cage just didn’t fit.
It was a month in hell before I discovered that.
Among other things, I’m going to cover a lot of technical topics on male chastity in this Substack but a theme that I’ll constantly be referring back to is comfort and fit. And if you don’t know what comfort means in chastity, how can you know if your cage fits?
I think you have a different definition of “training” perhaps then those of us that help chastity newbies get through those initial days and weeks. Training isn’t just putting on a cage and getting used to it. Part of “training” is in fact learning about those things like that the proper lube (not coconut oil) makes a massive difference and also part of training is working to find that perfect cage. The perfect cage for you isn’t the perfect one for everyone. As someone who has helped many many newbies learn how to be comfortable (and safe) in their cages, there are absolutely things that need to be learned before you can lock long term. Besides that initial training phase is fun for those of us locking up newbies.